Wel, I am still going strong. Mainly fruits, veggies, eggs, a little cheese. 3 pita chips again, steak for dinner. The urge to stress eat has not hit me and last night at work only 1 piece of chocolate candy and I savored it but did not want anymore.
I believe that the morning and evening weight loss tapes have helped me. EFT is keeping me on track when I stress out. So far, so good! I actually feel as if I have more NRG today.
The back is better but not 100%.
Today I felt great. Slept in due to starting work later in the day... Again, no urge for manufactured carbs upon waking.
All through the day I had no urge to eat processed carbs and when I did, I wasn't able to finish it. I had 2 pita chips, 3/4 of a piece of whole-wheat bread and 1/4th of a cookie. That's it! I didn't like the taste and was able to stop and leave. Really a miracle as the starch turning to sugar usually makes me crave even more. The sugary taste was still there but not the urge to continue eating more! To be continued...
MY BACK STORY, EFT and Hail Marys... I'm chalking this up to a miracle folks!
I did however; pull my back out right before leaving for work. That story is interesting in its own right. I remembered that just before it went out, my husband told me he had a dream about being at his own funeral. It was being held with a few guys and everyone but him had a wonderful obit. He told me it was a wakeup call about doing something with his life. My back told me something different. All of a sudden the thought of life without him became unbearable. All I could think of was how I was going to live without him, manage our house and life. Apparently just the thought of it "crippled" me as I let out a scream and almost fell over with pain. (I had just stooped down to put away a cooking pot in the kitchen.)
Luckily my husband acted quickly getting, telling me not to stop moving than dosing me with some Advil and having me lay down on an ice pack. As I lay down on the ice, I started to say the "Hail Mary" over and over again. I also used EFT to address the fear that was paralyzing my back muscles. I realized that I too that I dreamt of my funeral when I was near death and I didn't die. I then heard the words, "You are healed. Get up." I got up as I was instructed.
I am not going to tell you that my back was 100% normal but I was able to walk, stoop and climb stairs and work for 6.45 hours without any problem.
I am a believe I was gifted a miracle. I am a believer! Are you?
I have following San Diego hypnotist, Christian Wasinger for 3 years now. I have always been interested in hypnosis and I thought if ever I needed a session, he would be the man!
Last week I finally decided to do something about my cravings for carbs. It was getting seriously out of control. You might ask: Why not use EFT on myself to help get this under control? Well, in some instances when you are too close to a situation it may not be effective. It may be beneficial to seek outside help. At any rate, I am glad that I did and this blog reflects my journey to wellness surrounding food. I will be using EFT, NLP and hypnosis to help me make better lifestyle choices...
Day 1
Right after today's session, I felt the urge to drive immediately to the store and purchase cottage cheese, strawberries, apples, celery, carrots and meat for tomorrow’s dinner. When I got home, I thought about the crackers for a moment and then went on to eat celery, carrots, cottage cheese and strawberries.
We went to a dinner party and I found that I could ONLY focus on eating carrots and cheese although there were crackers on the plate as well. I couldn’t believe it as this was the 1st time in a long time I passed on bread items.
I ate fish – which I don’t really like – salad a bit of Thai noodles. Although I felt as if I ate too much, I was very proud of myself. No bread... hmmmm. Very strange for me not to even want a little piece
Listened to the evening hypnosis tape and fell asleep.
Day 2
I woke up after a peaceful night's sleep and listened to the morning tape. Upon rising, I drank 2 large glasses of water. I walked on the treadmill for 15 minutes since I have a bruise on my foot and can’t run. I used a bit of EFT on the treadmill and I really enjoyed exercising which I have not felt motivated to do in a long time!
I ate a small portion of Rice Crispies. Pouring and eating them seemed weird to me. Also had a strawberry, cottage cheese, one cup of coffee with sugar, cream -- my standard.
For the 1st time I can remember, I wanted to eat at the table while I ate breakfast. I *put my spoon "down" in between meals and really enjoyed the food. I did *not read during breakfast but concentrated on the meal and the texture and taste… it was such a strange feeling but it felt right for me to do. (*This was all suggested under hypnosis but I only realized it when I started to act out this behavior.)
Going out to create a new necklace right now. I have a new line of jewelry in mind and I have not been motivated to create it. If feels good to have some control over what I am doing.
Off to the studio...
“Growing up” in the shadow of alcoholics was never complete. While I grew up physically, I learned that did not grow up emotionally and to this day, there are times where I still find myself asking, “What is it like to be normal?” In our house, abnormal was normal. It was violent, raw and rage was always bubbling just below the surface. I learned to be hyper-vigilent every waking and non-waking moment of my day. I learned and quickly adopted new ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. I learned to react not act. It was twice as hard for me sometimes because psychically I knew what was coming or knew "something" wasn't right. Nowadays when shaken and stirred, I still might respond with gut reactions gleaned from survival lessons learned as a child.
In my struggle to find some normalcy, I found some research I'd like to share with you. When I first read it many years ago, a wave of relief came over me: I was not alone. I thanked God for the information that unlooked so many doors for me... answered so many questions for me. I also thanked God later in my life for Melody Beattie. She wrote the book, "Co-dependant No More." For me the book was a revelation and it offered me relief.
In 1983, Dr. Janet Woititz, developed a list of 13 common traits of Adult Children of Alcoholics (more commonly known by the acronym ACOA.) While these traits are general whereby some may apply and others may not, you may recognize some of them:
Adult Children of Alcoholics…
• guess at what normal is.
• have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.
• lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
• judge themselves without mercy.
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have difficulty having fun.
• take themselves very seriously.
• have difficulty with intimate relationships.
• overreact to changes over which they have no control.
• constantly seek approval and affirmation.
• feel that they are different from other people.
• are either super responsible or super irresponsible.
• are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved.
• tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsivity leads to confusion, self- loathing, and loss of control of their environment. As a result, they spend tremendous amounts of time cleaning up the mess.
Still there are other characteristics you might identify with. In 1978, Tony A., published what he called “The List.” It is comprised of traits commonly exhibited by ACOA. According to Tony A's list, many adult children of alcoholics can:
• Become isolated
• Fear people and authority figures
• Become approval seekers
• Be frightened of angry people
• Be terrified of personal criticism
• Become alcoholics, marry them or both
• View life as a victim
• Have an overwhelming sense of responsibility
• Be concerned more with others than themselves
• Feel guilty when they stand up for themselves
• Become addicted to excitement
• Confuse love and pity
• 'Love' people who need rescuing
• Stuff their feelings
• Lose the ability to feel
• Have low self-esteem
• Judge themselves harshly
• Become terrified of abandonment
• Do anything to hold on to a relationship
• Become "para-alcoholics" without drinking
• Become reactors instead of actors
As a child of 2 adult alcoholics, I invite you look at a technique that was developed almost 2 decades ago. It was designed by Gary Craig and Adrienne Fowlie to help humanity find emotional freedom and it is called Emotional Freedom Techniques or Tapping. I have been personally using this effect and easy-t0-use tapping technique for the past year and, so far, the results has been surprisingly effective.
With each event that I address, I find that not only does it bring me to a place of understanding and forgiveness but I have developed a deeper sense of compassion, not only for myself but for my parents and siblings, as well. It has helped me to address my incapacity to love, childhood fears and issues of control amoung other things, and I am left with an unending spiritual peace... emotional freedom if you will.
The beauty of EFT is that it is not an either or therapy modality. It can be and is currently combined with various therapy modalities as well as allopath medicine. As I continue my journey to wellness I continue to share with other ACOC’s what has worked well for me. I hope that you will consider EFT as an effective tool in finding your personal emotional freedom.
To your inner beauty... may you discover it is there. Blessings, Merry
I cannot stress this enough… You do NOT need anything or anyone outside of you to make you feel better, be better or to help you live a better lifestyle.
When you receive a blessing from a Guru, know that you will receive Divine Intelligence – a blessing that will do what is needed and it will know where it should go to help you in the best way possible – in other words, for your best and highest good. That being said, a blessing does not mean that you board a life raft to cling to for the rest of your mortal life. WE should never give our power away to anyone – even if the title Guru is attached to his/her name.
Remember… Gurus are human… they have human faults and needs just like the rest of us. While they may possess a higher Divine Consciousness some of them are driven by ego. Power plus ego can be a dangerous combination…
Lastly, I know it’s hard to remain objective… It’s hard to when things are shifting for you and putting you in a better place. It’s hard not to get attached to someone when we are in total awe of their “gifts.” Use caution here… If you find yourself absolutely needing a continual blessing even at the cost of your life savings or even worse creating credit card debt, please stop and step outside the picture. There you will find objectivity and regain your common sense and perspective.
How do I know? I just stepped outside and the view is much clearer…
Blessings for a new day, Merry
As many of you know, I am also a student of numerology. Today I’d like to explain a little bit about 1-1-11. In terms of numerology, 1-1-11 are considered significant numbers. If you add the numbers up (1+1+1+1) they equal 4, which in numerology means earth, foundation, stability and manifestation. The double 11’s are considered to be portals and today, you have two! So today you are invited to walk through the portals of manifestation and what a better time than NOW to talk about that very topic.
A few years ago, Rhonda Byrn, wrote the international best seller, “The Secret.” It caused a lot of controversy because the premise was that you could attain all you asked for just by learning what the secret was and applying it. If you haven’t figured it out already, the Secret was based on the Universal Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction states that: “Everything in the Universe moves, vibrates and travels in circular patterns. The same principles of vibration in the physical world apply to our thoughts, feelings, desires, and wills in the Etheric world. Each sound, thing and even thought has its own vibrational frequency, unique unto itself. Why did it cause so much controversy? I believe that it was because the movie left out the actual secret, which is, that before the Universe can fill our “abundance” order, we need to be prepared mentally, spiritually and physically to receive it.
Again, the Law states, all is vibrational with its own frequency… so as we ask for more and we have not yet worked on clearing up our abundance issues, we will get more of what we already have. Why? Because the universe is neutral and it cannot tell happiness from hunger and ultimately we get more of the same wherever you happen to be that day.
So, how does EFT come into play? Well, I believe that EFT is an effective tool to help us clear out our negative beliefs surrounding abundance. As we address and clear up what is creating our negative reactions to wealth and personal abundance, we create a void. As we create a void, it creates an opportunity to fill it with positive beliefs. So I ask you, what are your limiting beliefs about abundance? Again, the word “abundance” is used subjectively here and it can be applied to material as well as spiritual abundance. Here is a sampling of limiting beliefs you may have:
“All rich people are dishonest.”
“I can’t be rich and be spiritual.”
“I can’t charge money for my services in order to be spiritual.”
“Only poor people go to heaven.”
If you are programmed to believing that only rich people are dishonest, then you may never achieve your desired goal of wealth. After all, you hold all limiting beliefs to be true!
(To be continued tomorrow…)
Keep Tapping and Happy New Year! Merry
Well, today’s the last day of 2010. As we move into the New Year my hope is to inspire you to live as if anything is possible. Today let’s tap on What If Today…
EB: What if today, I open myself to all possibilities…
SE: What if today, I stopped worrying and started wondering…
UE: What if today, I move into action – taking it day-by-day…
UN: What if today I wrote a list of everything I wanted…
CH: What if today, I took one thing I on my list and actually did something with it…
CB: What if today, I put aside the “I can’t do this” belief and started believing that “I can”…
UA: What if today, I dare to dream and in doing so address what’s keeping me stuck…
TH: What if today is the day I do all of these things and see where life takes me!
EFT is a wonderful tool to help you change your belief system. As you work with the “What if” statements, see what comes up for you emotionally or in your body. That is your starting point.
Remember to start at the KC and make up a set-up statement pairing a negative statement with a positive statement and tap on it 3 times. (Example) “Even though I am stuck and can’t seem to get motivated, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Better yet, can you think of a time someone said or did something that you can relate to feeling stuck? If nothing is coming up, it’s okay to guess at it.
Next, starting with the EB and ending with the TH state a reminder phrase (Example) “Being Stuck.” At the end of your tapping sequence, take a deep breath and see how you feel or what emotions come up for you. Write that down and you can work on that emotion next. If you are not down to zero on “Being Stuck” you still have more work to do…
Go through the sequence again and tap saying, “This remaining …” Again, take a measure of where you are and see if you have come down in emotion. Important: Keep tapping until you are at zero! If you find yourself not having any emotional charge as you think of being stuck, take a look at your notes and see what emotions came up for you. Work on those next.
Keep tapping until you feel you’ve resolved all the emotions around “Being Stuck.”
Keep Tapping and blessings for a New Day! See you in 2011! Merry
PS. If you know of anyone who may benefit from Tapping, please pass this on…
I came across the Optimist's Club Creed the other day and if you haven't read it before, it is inspiring. Optimist Clubs are dedicated to "Bringing out the Best in Kids and do their part through community service programs. They see a need in their community and react to it.
You too can become an Optimist! Make a commitment every day to tap and work on the areas in your life that you would like to reframe. Establish your own creed or personal code to live and thrive by. Ask yourself, "What areas in my life will I commit to working at to make not only a difference to myself and in doing so, affect my community at large." Here now is the Optimist Creed: (In some sentences I've added the words "I am committed" or "I will" to enhance it for EFT.)
- To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. (I am so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.)
- To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. ( I will talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.)
- To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. ( I am committed to make all my friends feel that there is something in them.)
- To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. (I am committed to look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.)
- To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. (I am committed to think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.)
- To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. (I am committed to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.)
- To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. (I am committed to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.)
- To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. (I am committed to wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature I meet a smile.)
- To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. (I am committed to giving so much time to the improvement of MYSELF that I have NO time to criticize others.)
- To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. ( I am committed to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.)
At the end of your tapping session, take a deep breath, grab a glass of water and sit for a moment. Think back... did anything of the statements cause you to have a negative emotional response? If yes... that's a tappable issue. Take that sentence and work on it... Tell the truth about how you feel about the sentence. This is an example:
1. Starting at the KC make a setup statement: "Even though I can't forget the mistakes of the past, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I hold onto the mistakes I've made in the past, I choose to find an effective new way of forgiving myself. Even though I can't forget the mistakes of the past, I accept who I am and how I feel."
2. Starting at the EB point and tap a reminder phrase, "The mistakes of the past." This is important because as our emotional charge lessens, our mind tends to wander off. The reminder phrase is repeated to keep you focused on your emotional state. That is why EFT is so effective. While tapping, you bring to mind and release negative and emotional issues, physical issues thought patterns and/or behavior. It won't take away your natural responses to life issues, but it will take away unhealthy responses. Our subconscious cannot tell the difference between whether an event is happening now or in the past.
3. After each round of tapping, take a deep breath and see what comes up for you. Repeat the statement. Does it feel clear or is there still some emotional charge? If so, tap again until you feel the emotional charge has been brought to zero.
Blessings for a wonderful day, Merry
PS. If you know of anyone who might benefit from tapping, please pass this on...
When John Wooden, the great UCLS basketball coach, gradated from grade school at age twelve, his father gave him a seven-point creed. John said that this creed had been one of the most powerful influences on his entire life and career. It's a creed he lived by every single day. **I've personalize this Creed by adding "I can... to the front of each statement.:
John Wooden's Seven Point Creed, "Making the most of Oneself"
KC: Be true to yourself. (I can be true to myself.)
EB: Make each day your masterpiece. (I can make each day a masterpiece.)
SE: Help others. (I can help others.)
UE: Drink deeply from good books... (I can drink deeply from good books.) (BTW: They are free to borrow from the Library!)
Chin: Make friendship a fine art. (I can make friendship and art.)
CB: Build a shelter against a rainy day. (I can build shelter against a rainy day.)
UA: Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day. (I can pray for guidance and give thanks for my blessings every day.)
At the end of your tapping session, take a deep breath and a drink of water. Then sit for a minute and listen to any guidance you may have received and/or negative remark(s) come up for you. That is where you begin the work of cleaning up and clearing out.
1. As always, start at the KC point and tap. The following is an example of some negative talk you might hear or feel in your body:
KC: "Even though I know my day won't be a masterpiece, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I can't see how this might happen, I choose to let it be easy. Even though I know I won't have a masterpiece day, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway."
2. Now, start at the EB point and let it rip. Just go through internal dialogue. Finish at the top of the head.
3. At the end of tapping all of the Meridian points, take a deep breath and drink a glass of water. Now, sit and observe how you feel or what emotion has come up or down in your body whether it is emotional or just in your body.
4. Not down to zero yet? Tap again and really focus on your KC statement: "Even though I STILL carry some of this negative beliefs that I will not have a masterpiece day, I deeply and completely accept myself where I am. Even though I STILL can't believe I will have a masterpiece day, I choose to be open to possibilities. Even though I STILL can't believe I can have a masterpiece day, I deeply and completely accept myself where I am right now."
5. Tap through all the Meridian points again and open yourself to the truth of the statement: "This remaining masterpiece belief..."
6. Take another deep breath and drink of water and see how you feel. Say the statement again: Make each day your masterpiece. Observe what comes up again. If you are down to zero you have cleared this belief. If something else comes up for you, tap again.
You see, EFT speaks the truth about where you are in your life. Maybe somewhere in your life you were told you life wasn't going to be easy! If we have this belief and carry it around with us, chances are we may never feel like life isn't going to be easy nor is it going to look like a masterpiece! There's hope... keep tapping!
Blessings for a wonderful day! Merry
PS. If you know of anyone who may benefit from Tapping, please pass this on...
I am proud to announce that I am moving forward with offering free EFT or Tapping workshops in the San Diego area. The first of which will be held at Coronado Public Library on Tuesday, January 11th, 2011 from 6-8:30. No reservation required. Please visit the EFT page to learn about the Meridian Points we will be tapping.
Today's Tapping Tip:
This is a short but powerful paragraph that I found inside of Norman Vincent Peale's book, The Power of Positive Thinking." This book was instrumental in helping me get through a very painful and lonely time in my life. After reading this book, my life turned around considerably. I hope that you will find a copy (remember to visit your local library) and read it as it offers timeless pearls of wisdom.
HOW TO USE IT: I believe it is easier to integrate positive tapping into your daily hygiene routine. I tap after brushing my teeth morning and night. In front of a mirror (This is powerful and increases the effect) tap along the meridian points for 3 ROUNDS saying these sentences with gusto! Feel free to change the word God/He to any word that works for you ie. Universe, Mother/Father God, etc.:
Karate Chop: I believe this is going to be a wonderful day!
Eye brow: I believe I can successfully handle all problems that will arise today!
Side of eye: I feel good physically, mentally, emotionally!
Under eye: It is wonderful to be alive!
Under nose: I am grateful for all that I have had, for all that I have, and for all that I shall have!
Chin: Things aren't going to fall apart.
Collarbone: God is here and He is with me and He will see me through!
Under Arm: I thank God for every good thing.
Top of Head: Thank you... (The top of the head is the meeting point of a Hundred Meeting Points of Meridian and is considered the EFT "Sweet Spot." When we tap it releases the: Inner critic, lack of focus, and gerbil wheel thinking. It then allows: Insight, intuition, spiritual connection, focus wisdom, spiritual discernment, and clarity. I added this last sentence because the more we focus on being grateful the more positive our lives become.)
Now, notice after you say each sentence out loud, how does this sound or feel to you? What is the intensity and the NEGATIVE dialogue that comes up. An example might be: I believe this is going to be a wonderful day! and your negative talk says, "Yeah, but what about dealing with Nancy from work. She sure is mean to me..." This is were the true work with EFT begins. We start to recognize and speak our truth...
1. Start with the KC (Karate Chop) and say... "Even though I have anger issues with Nancy, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway. Even though I am angry with Nancy, I choose to accept myself anyway. Even though I am very angry with Nancy, I choose to be open to possibilities of getting along with her better."
2. Starting with the EB point, open up to your inner dialogue. Speak your truth about the situation with Nancy.
3. At the end of tapping all of the Meridian points, observe how you feel or what emotion has come up or down in intensity in your body.
4. Now revisit how you feel about the statement, "I believe this is going to be a wonderful day even if I have to deal with Nancy." If any dialogue or feelings come up, start the process again until you have gotten your intensity to zero. REMEMBER: The more you tap, the more it works...
Keep tapping and blessings for a new day, Merry
PS. If you know of anyone who may benefit from Tapping, please pass this on...
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