 You meet someone new, and things seem to be going well.
You’re drawn in by their charm, their attention, and that spark you’ve been craving. But then, something shifts. They start saying things that make you question your worth, or they subtly undermine your confidence. Suddenly, you find yourself in a relationship where you’re second-guessing everything and walking on eggshells. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. It’s a common experience for many, especially those who fall into the trap of harmful dating tactics—strategies designed to control and manipulate. Today, we’re pulling back the curtain on these tactics so you can recognise, protect yourself, and step back into your power. What These Tactics Look Like Harmful dating tactics often start subtly. These behaviours can include:
Why It’s So Harmful These tactics are not just emotionally draining; they can cause serious psychological harm. Research has shown that emotional manipulation in relationships can lead to increased anxiety, depression, and a decline in self-worth. Over time, you may start to believe the negative things they say about you, and it becomes a vicious cycle where their control over you grows stronger. I’ve been there before. I was once in a relationship where the person made me feel like I was the problem. They used gaslighting and negging so subtly that I didn’t even realize what was happening. It wasn’t until I stepped back and worked on my energy that I saw how I was being manipulated. That realisation was the game-changer. I knew I needed to take back my power and stop letting someone else dictate my worth. How to Spot the Signs Early So, how do you know when someone is using these tactics?
Protecting Yourself: How to Take Back Your Power
When to Seek Help If you find yourself caught in a web of these harmful tactics and are unsure how to break free, this is where an intuitive intelligence consultation comes in. It can provide behind-the-scenes intel, guidance tailored to your situation and empower you to attract relationships that truly honour who you are. You deserve a relationship that lifts you up, not one that tears you down. The choice is yours—take back your power today. With love and empowerment, Merry
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Is Someone Secretly Controlling You? Here are 5 Tactics Manipulators Use in Everyday Life.9/11/2024  Have you ever felt like someone was controlling your life without you realising it?
Maybe it’s your partner, your boss, or even a lawyer during your divorce. You feel confused, anxious, and powerless. It’s not in your head. You’re not imagining it. You’re being manipulated. And it’s happening through Reptilian Theory—a tactic that taps into the most primal part of your brain, exploiting your survival instincts and keeping you trapped in a cycle of fear and control. People who use these tactics don’t need to yell or scream. They know exactly how to push your buttons in ways that go straight to your core. They make you feel unsafe, uncertain, and unworthy—all while subtly pulling your strings. And it happens everywhere: relationships, the workplace, even legal battles. Consider this: You’re going through a divorce, already feeling vulnerable and emotionally raw. Divorce lawyers have been using Reptilian Theory for years to manipulate the outcome of cases. How? By playing on the jury’s deepest fears. They don’t just argue with logic—they tap into primal emotions, like fear of loss or financial ruin, to sway decisions. They know that when someone’s survival instincts are triggered, reason and facts don’t matter. Take the OJ Simpson trial as an example. The defense played on racial tension and distrust of authority, swaying the jury not by facts, but by triggering their deepest fears and survival instincts. (I was a Court Reporting student at the time of the trial and verdict) But it doesn’t stop there. Manipulative partners use these same tactics during divorce negotiations. They create fear about your financial future, your children’s well-being, and your ability to live without them. They make you feel dependent, isolated, and powerless. The goal? To make you fold, to make you settle for less, to make you think you need them. You start questioning your own choices. You wonder if maybe they’re right, maybe you aren’t capable of handling it all on your own. That’s the manipulation working. They thrive on your fear, your insecurity, and your chaos. Why do they use these tactics? Because they work. When someone can tap into your reptilian brain—the part of you that’s hardwired for survival—they gain complete control. They manipulate your fear of losing everything, your need for security, and your desire for safety. Once they’ve activated those fears, they can make you do almost anything to avoid disaster. In divorces, bosses keeping you in line, or relationships where you feel stuck, this manipulation is happening all the time. It’s not about love, care, or justice. It’s about control. How It Works in Everyday Life Fear as a Weapon in Relationships In a controlling relationship, your partner keeps you afraid—afraid of being alone, of being financially unstable, or of losing custody of your children. They convince you that without them, you’ll fail. This fear makes you stay, settle, and give in. Scarcity and Urgency in Workplaces Some bosses use Reptilian Theory to keep employees in check. They make you feel like opportunities are scarce, so you’d better take what you can get. They rush you into decisions, making you believe that if you don’t act now, you’ll miss out. That’s why so many people stay in toxic jobs—they’re convinced there’s nothing better out there. Isolation in Divorce Negotiations A manipulative ex will isolate you during a divorce, making you feel like no one else understands, that only they can help you navigate the mess. They’ll alienate you from support systems, ensuring that you’re too emotionally weak to fight back. The more isolated you are, the more power they have. Chaos and Confusion in Legal Battles Lawyers using Reptilian Theory thrive on chaos. They make things complicated so you don’t understand what’s happening. The more overwhelmed you feel, the more you defer to their judgment. You lose your voice in your own case. Guilt and Shame in Everyday Life Whether it’s a partner, family member, or boss, these manipulators make you feel responsible for their happiness or success. They guilt-trip you into doing what they want. You end up prioritising their needs over your own, feeling like you’re always letting them down if you don’t comply. How to Spot It... If you think someone is using these tactics on you, here’s how to recognise the signs:
How to Take Back Control You don’t have to stay stuck in this manipulative cycle. Awareness is the first step to breaking free. Once you recognise these patterns, you can start taking back your power. Here’s How:
Ready to Break Free from Manipulation? If you’re feeling controlled, manipulated, or unsure if someone is using Reptilian tactics on you—whether it’s in your relationship, your job, or your divorce—it’s time to take back control of your life. In an Intuitive Intelligence Consultation, I’ll help you recognise these hidden tactics, clear your energy, and get back in touch with your inner strength. You don’t have to live in fear, chaos, or confusion any longer. Book your session today, and let’s start clearing the path to your freedom. With strength and clarity, Merry  You’ve done all the right things—put in the work, stayed focused, and kept your goals in sight—but somehow, you still feel like you’re running into the same walls. Frustrating, right?
Here’s the truth most people don’t realise: You can be doing everything “right” on the surface, but if your subconscious mind is carrying blocks, those hidden barriers will sabotage your progress every time. And these blocks? They’re sneaky. You don’t consciously see them. They operate behind the scenes, influencing your thoughts, decisions, and ultimately, your life. So, what’s really holding you back isn’t always obvious—it’s what’s buried deep within. But here’s the good news: You can change this. You can influence your subconscious and break through those barriers. What Are Subconscious Blocks? Imagine driving a car with the parking brake on. You’re pushing the gas, but the car isn’t moving like it should. Subconscious blocks are the invisible brake—slowing you down, even when you’re working hard to move forward. These blocks can stem from old beliefs, fears, or even past experiences that are stored deep within your mind. Things you may not even remember can leave an imprint on how you see yourself and what you believe you’re capable of achieving. Steve’s Story: The Power of Subconscious Shifts Steve, a client of mine, was someone who had everything in place to grow his business—great ideas, a solid plan, and the drive to succeed. But every time he took a step forward, he felt like he was pulled ten steps back. During his complimentary Hypnosis Consultation, we went beyond just looking at surface-level challenges. We explored the subconscious patterns that were really driving his actions. Steve had a subconscious belief that he wasn’t worthy of success. Years of internalising criticism had planted this belief deep within him. It didn’t matter how well he prepared or how talented he was—his subconscious was silently sabotaging him. Breaking Free from the Hidden Barriers Once we identified that block, Steve began to understand why he felt so stuck. This hidden belief had been controlling his actions, influencing his decisions, and even holding him back from opportunities that would’ve taken his business to the next level. So, how did we shift it? First, I rebalanced Steve’s energy to clear the emotional and mental blocks that were keeping him stuck. This step was crucial because it allowed him to release the negative energy that had been weighing him down, creating space for clarity and focus. Once his energy was aligned, we began working on his subconscious programming to rewrite the old narrative Steve had been carrying for years. His mind started to embrace a new story—one where success wasn’t just a distant possibility, but an inevitable outcome. The result? Steve felt a weight lifted. The barriers that once felt like walls started to crumble, and he moved forward with newfound clarity and confidence. His business began growing, not just because of external actions, but because his mind was now fully aligned with his goals. How Can You Influence Your Subconscious? If you’re feeling stuck, it might be time to dig deeper. Here’s how you can begin to shift those hidden patterns:
The Shift: Releasing the Chains It’s amazing what happens when your subconscious mind finally gets on board with your goals. Suddenly, the resistance fades. The things that once felt impossible start to feel achievable. And instead of pushing against invisible barriers, you’re flowing toward success with ease. Imagine what your life would look like if those old stories and fears weren’t running the show anymore. What could you accomplish if your mind, body, and spirit were working in harmony? This is the shift waiting for you. Are You Ready to Break Free? If you’re tired of hitting the same walls and want to uncover what’s really holding you back, it’s time to work with the power of your subconscious. Book your complimentary Hypnosis Discovery Consultation with me, and we’ll uncover the hidden blocks, rewire your subconscious, and align your mind with your true potential. Your transformation is within reach—it’s time to claim it. With clarity, empowerment, and freedom, Merry  Let’s be real—life is filled with energy, both positive and negative. Sometimes, it feels like the negativity is creeping into every part of your life. You might sense the heaviness, the tension, and wonder how to protect yourself from it all.
And staying grounded? It can feel like an uphill battle when the energy around you is chaotic and draining. But here’s the truth: You don’t have to absorb that negativity. You aren’t powerless against it. Your energy is yours to protect and nurture. It’s time to stop letting external energy overwhelm you and start using your intuition to guard your inner peace. This is your moment to rise, shield your energy, and stand strong in your power. How Negativity Seeps into Your Energy Field… Let me tell you about Claire. She always knew she was sensitive to the energy of others, but it wasn’t until she entered a high-stress workplace that it truly hit her. Every day felt like an emotional rollercoaster, leaving her drained and exhausted by the time she got home. Her co-workers' negative attitudes, combined with the constant stress of the environment, made it impossible for her to feel at peace. She tried everything—meditations, positive affirmations, even crystals—but nothing seemed to stop the negativity from clinging to her. When Claire came to me, we didn’t just talk about her feeling overwhelmed. We looked deeper. We focused on how her energy field was wide open, how she was unknowingly absorbing all the chaos around her. She wasn’t protecting herself, and that’s why the negativity had such a strong hold on her emotions. We started by addressing her energetic boundaries and cleansing her aura. By learning how to shield her energy and remove the negative residue left behind from her day, Rebecca began to feel lighter, more in control. She finally saw the impact her unguarded energy field was having on her life, and it changed everything. So, what was happening in the present? Claire’s work environment was still the same—high-pressure and full of stress—but she was starting to shift. We focused on strengthening her intuitive defences, teaching her how to protect her energy in real time. Rather than feeling like a victim to the chaotic energy around her, she learned to sense the shifts before they could affect her. She started reading the energy in the room the moment she walked in, setting an internal boundary that no negativity could cross. Here’s what made all the difference: Rebecca’s internal dialogue shifted from, “I need to leave this place” to, “I control this space.” Rebecca wasn’t just reacting anymore. She was anticipating. She was shielding herself, standing strong in her own energy, and no longer allowing the emotions of others to invade her space. Looking ahead, Rebecca had a choice… Would she continue to allow the negativity to drain her? Or would she stand firm, guarding her energy and choosing to stay grounded no matter what was happening around her? We visualised her future—one path where she stayed vulnerable, allowing the external chaos to dictate her emotions, and the other where she actively protected her energy, controlling her own emotional state. The difference was powerful. Rebecca saw that by fortifying her energy, she could move through her days with a sense of peace, no matter what was happening around her. She chose to step into her power. Here’s the key: Rebecca wasn’t running from the negativity. She was standing tall against it. By embracing her intuition and creating energetic boundaries, she transformed her environment—not by changing her surroundings, but by changing how she interacted with them. Instead of dreading each workday, she began entering the office with confidence. She didn’t need to escape anymore because she had the tools to protect her energy. Rebecca wasn’t absorbing the stress and negativity. She was deflecting it. The result? Her coworkers noticed the change in her, too. Her calmness became contagious, and the energy around her began to shift. Rebecca no longer felt drained or powerless—she felt grounded and empowered. The Power to Protect Your Energy Is Yours This isn’t about avoiding negativity or pretending it doesn’t exist. It’s about learning to guard your own energy, standing firm in your power, and deciding how the world affects you. When you master the ability to protect your energy, you’re not just surviving—you’re thriving. You no longer have to be a sponge for others' chaos. You become a force of calm, grounded in your own peace. Ready to Protect Your Energy? You are not meant to absorb the negativity around you. You have the power to guard your energy, strengthen your boundaries, and live from a place of clarity and peace. If you’re ready to stop letting external forces drain you, it’s time to take action. Grab a copy of E-TOX, my essential Energy Detox, Maintenance, and Empath Defense system. This comprehensive energy detox system includes step-by-step videos that show you how to cleanse your energy, maintain strong boundaries, and stay grounded—no matter what life throws at you. Your peace is within reach—let’s create it together. With strength and clarity, Merry  Let’s be real—when you’re stuck at a crossroads, it can feel like the weight of your past is dragging you down. You’re replaying old choices, rehashing memories, and wondering how you got here.
And the future? It feels like a blank space, filled with uncertainty, fear, and doubt. But here’s the truth: You are not stuck. You are not powerless. The future is yours to create. And it’s time to stop letting the past control your next move. This is your wake-up call to reclaim your life, step into your truth, and own your power. What To Do When Your Past Is Running the Show… Take Amy’s story. After years of being trapped in a toxic marriage to a narcissist, she was ready to break free—but she didn’t know how. Her husband had spent years undermining her confidence, isolating her from her loved ones, and making her feel like she was always one step away from losing control. He belittled her in front of their kids, twisting every word she said to maintain his hold over her life. Amy knew she needed to leave. She could feel it in her bones, but fear kept her frozen. What if he retaliated? What if the divorce destroyed her children? She was paralysed—allowing his influence to run the show, dictating her every move, even after years of emotional abuse. During our Directives Consultation, we didn’t just talk about her fear. We dove deep into her timeline. We looked at the years of manipulation, how his gaslighting had kept her doubting her own strength, and why these old wounds were still pulling her strings. By unearthing the patterns of control from her past, Amy started to see how her husband had woven himself into her thoughts, her energy, and her choices. Then, we turned to the present. What is happening right now? We peeled back the layers of her current situation—how his energy was still suffocating her, keeping her locked in self-doubt and fear. Step by step, we dismantled the toxic power dynamics and got real about how his manipulation was keeping her from standing in her power. Finally, we did what every empowered woman must do—we looked forward. What would happen if she stayed? What would happen if she left? We mapped it all out—the fears, the consequences, the possibilities. Amy could see her future unfolding in two directions, and once she chose her path, everything shifted. Here’s the kicker… I didn’t tell her what to do. I empowered her to make a decision from a place of clarity, power, and truth. Once Amy made the decision to ask for a divorce, I used vibrational-influence techniques to make sure her path forward wasn’t filled with struggle and resistance. Instead of the constant battles she had feared, the energy shifted in her favour. Her husband didn’t fight her the way she expected, the legal process flowed more smoothly than she could have imagined, and even her children felt the ripple effect of the calm and peace Amy had created. By stepping into her power and aligning her decision with her truth, Amy didn’t just break free—she took control of her future. Take Back Your Power This isn’t about whether you make the “right” or “wrong” decision—it’s about making the decision that aligns with you, your truth, and your future. You’re not just picking a path—you’re choosing how your life unfolds from here. When you get clear on the patterns of your past, the energy of your present, and the possibilities of your future, you’re not just reacting to life anymore. You’re creating your reality. And the best part? You don’t have to do it alone. In a Directives Consultation, I’m here to help you navigate that timeline, uncover the lessons, and shift the energy so that your path forward is clear, aligned, and empowered. Own Your Life, Own Your Future Let’s get one thing straight—you are the creator of your own reality. You hold the power to step out of the shadows of your past and into the future you want. It’s time to let go of the old stories, the limiting beliefs, and the fear-based decisions that have been holding you back. You’re not just making decisions—you’re shaping your world, aligning with your power, and calling the shots. It’s time to rewrite your future from a place of truth, clarity, and confidence. Ready to Step Into Your Power? Are you ready to stop living under the influence of your past? Ready to reclaim your truth and make decisions that align with your highest self? Your future is waiting for you to show up. Book a Directives Consultation today, and let’s dive into your timeline. Together, we’ll create a path that’s clear, powerful, and aligned with your deepest truth. Right now, you can get $120 off until 10/1/24 when you use the code DIRECT at checkout. Take advantage of this limited-time offer and reclaim your power. Your future is waiting—let’s create it together. With love, power, and clarity, Merry  We often think of intuition as a tool for clarity and insight, guiding us to make empowered decisions and align with our highest good. But what happens when intuition is being used against you?
That’s right—just as you can harness your intuitive power to elevate your life and business, others can use theirs to manipulate, control, or influence you to their advantage. Let me share a client story that shows exactly how this works—and how to stop it in its tracks. The Client Who Almost Signed Away Her Power One of my clients, let’s call her Sarah, came to me after being stuck in a drawn-out negotiation. She was in the process of signing a contract with a new business partner, and on the surface, everything seemed fine. The terms were laid out, the numbers looked good, and logically, it all made sense. But Sarah had a feeling she couldn’t shake. Something was off, and her usually sharp intuition was clouded. No matter how many times she looked at the contract, she couldn’t put her finger on why she felt so uneasy. During our session, I helped Sarah tune back into her own intuition, while also using my intuitive intelligence to tap into the vibrational dynamics of the negotiation. It became crystal clear that her potential business partner was subtly manipulating the energy of the deal. How? By using his own intuitive abilities to make Sarah feel like she needed him more than he needed her. He was playing a power game—projecting a sense of urgency and scarcity that wasn’t real. His energy was intentionally lowering her confidence and making her question her own worth in the partnership. Sarah was being energetically undermined without even realising it. This is a tactic I’ve seen time and time again in negotiations, both in business and personal relationships. When someone else’s intuition is being used to influence you negatively, it can feel like you’re swimming through fog—unable to see the truth, but knowing something isn’t right. How I Shifted the Energy Once we identified the manipulation at play, I focused on strengthening Sarah’s own energetic field and intuition. Then I employed some vibrational-influence techniques to help her realign with her power, amplifying her confidence and clearing away the fog that had been clouding her judgment. When Sarah went back to the negotiation table, the energy had completely shifted. She was no longer vulnerable to the subtle pressure her business partner was applying. Instead, she stood firm, fully aware of her own value and not swayed by his attempts to control the situation. The result? She walked away with a deal that was entirely on her terms—and it felt right. How You Can Safeguard Your Energy in Negotiations: 1. If you ever find yourself feeling uncertain, foggy, or doubting your worth in a negotiation, take a step back. Ask yourself, "Does my energy feel off?" (Remember... Sara's intuition felt cloudy when her energy was normally crystal clear) 2. Then, ask yourself if the energy you’re picking up is truly your own, or if it’s being influenced by someone else’s agenda - this could be someone you are currently working with or someone who you've dealt with in the past who doesn't have your best interest at heart. 3. If you're unsure, ask the Universe for a sign - something unique - that you will see within 3 days or weeks. 3. Remember: energy speaks louder than words. If something feels off, trust that nudge. It’s likely that someone is using their intuitive intelligence to sway the outcome in their favour. And that’s where I come in. In my Directives Consultation, I employ subtle, vibrational-influence techniques to help you reach your desired outcomes—whether it’s opening doors to new opportunities, safeguarding your interests (this is how I helped Sarah), planning strategically, or fostering cooperation. This skillset proves particularly effective in areas like sales, negotiations, and relationship dynamics, both personal and professional. If you want to make sure that no one is undermining your energy, and you’re fully aligned with the success you deserve, let’s work together. My methods will ensure you stay in your power, unaffected by external manipulation, and make decisions that are true to your higher self. Ready to take charge and protect your energy in every negotiation? Book a one-on-one Directives Consultation, and together we’ll make sure you’re the one steering the ship—not anyone else. With love and intuitive clarity, Merry  Have you ever felt like there’s more to a situation than meets the eye?
Maybe your gut tells you something isn’t quite right, or you just can’t shake the feeling that you're missing a key piece of the puzzle. You’re not imagining it. There’s an entire world of information beyond what we see and hear—and tapping into that unseen realm is where the magic happens. That’s where remote viewing comes in. Remote viewing isn’t just some woo-woo concept reserved for mystics. It’s a real, practical tool I use every day to help my clients see beyond the obvious and make empowered decisions in life, love, and business. Here’s how I use it, and why it could be the game-changer you’re looking for. What Is Remote Viewing? Think of remote viewing as a spiritual superpower that allows you to "see" things beyond the limits of time and space. It’s a practice where you can gather information about a person, place, or event without actually being there. Sounds wild, right? But here’s the thing: we’re all energetically connected, and through focused intention, we can access information that’s hidden from our conscious awareness. This isn’t magic—it’s mastery of the energy that flows through and around us. How I Use Remote Viewing to Empower My Clients Whether it’s gaining clarity in relationships, navigating business deals, or uncovering hidden opportunities, I use remote viewing to tap into the deeper layers of what’s really going on. Let me share a few real-world examples of how this powerful tool has changed lives: 1. Uncovering Hidden Truths in Relationships We’ve all been there—meeting someone new and feeling that instant connection. But then there’s that little voice, that nagging doubt in the back of your mind. You try to shake it off, but your intuition just won’t let you. That’s exactly what happened to a client of mine. She met a man who seemed perfect on the surface—kind, charming, successful. But she couldn’t ignore the sense that something was off. During our session, I used remote viewing to tap into his energy. And there it was—the truth she hadn’t been able to see on her own. He was already married and had another relationship on the side. Her gut had been right all along. By trusting her intuition and working with me to see the bigger picture, she saved herself from heartbreak and moved on to find someone aligned with her true desires. 2. Getting Clarity on Career and Business Moves It’s not just relationships where remote viewing can be a game-changer. I’ve worked with countless clients facing big decisions in their careers or businesses. They’re at a crossroads, unsure of which path to take. In these situations, I use remote viewing to access hidden opportunities or identify potential pitfalls. Whether it’s deciding between job offers, weighing business partnerships, or choosing when to make a bold move, remote viewing brings in the clarity they need to move forward with confidence. 3. Breaking Through Energetic Blocks We all experience moments when we feel stuck—like something is holding us back, but we just can’t figure out what it is. Remote viewing allows me to bypass those blocks and see what’s really going on beneath the surface. During sessions, I’ve uncovered everything from unresolved past traumas to deeply ingrained limiting beliefs that were keeping my clients from stepping into their full power. Once we see what’s holding them back, we can work together to clear it, opening the path for success and abundance. 4. Tapping into Future Outcomes While the future is always subject to change based on the choices we make, remote viewing allows me to tap into the energetic pathways that are already being created. This gives my clients insight into the potential outcomes of different decisions. This isn’t about fortune-telling—it’s about helping you make aligned choices that lead you to your highest potential. Whether it’s in business, finances, or personal growth, remote viewing helps you see the possibilities so you can make empowered, intuitive decisions. Why Remote Viewing is Your Secret Weapon Here’s the truth: Your higher self always knows the way. Remote viewing simply gives you the clarity and confidence to trust that inner knowing. When you align with the energy of your desires, the universe mirrors that back to you. If you’re tired of second-guessing your decisions, or you feel like you’re missing the key to moving forward, remote viewing could be the exact tool you need to unlock what’s been hidden from view. Ready to see what’s waiting for you beyond the surface? Book an Intuitive Intelligence session with me, and let’s dive deep. Because when you have the right tools, nothing is beyond your reach. With love and intuitive power, Merry |
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