Let This Be The Year...

Let this be the year that we stop emotionally 'bypassing' and/or 'spiritually' bypassing people's feelings.
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It denies the truth of those hurting.⁣
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This is what it sounds like... and what it feels like:
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"Just get past it." (Seriously. You haven't taken the time to understand what the person is trying to process or get past)
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"I want you to stop feeling ____ and do ______ instead!" (Because feelings are yucky and THEY don't want to deal with it. So to make themselves feel better, they want you to do this <non-emotional> response instead)
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"Everything is okay" (In that moment everything or anything in that person's world is NOT okay and they need to be seen, heard express their feelings to someone that they feel safe with)
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"This is just a lesson in enlightenment." (Someone is grieving so save it and go enlighten yourself)
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Next time someone comes to you, remember that everyone is still healing from things they don't speak about.
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Instead of offering them sage advice, sincerely listen to what's being said.
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Then ask them how you can be there for them instead.